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How Inner Peace Helps You Deal With Grief

Janet Schlarbaum Inner Peace by Lucky Balaraman.

The loss of a loved one is always devastating to the psyche. However, if you are grounded in inner peace, the impact on you is greatly reduced.

When a loved one passes on, the intellectual effects are overwhelming. Memories, fears, and confusion hit you like a tidal wave; you feel as if you are totally submerged by grief.

And then there is the vacuum the permanent disappearance of the loved one creates. The person (I am including pets as persons) had been a part of your life for a very long time. He or she had always occupied a large space in your mind. The two of you would do many things together, and you would think of him or her constantly. But now all that mental activity is suddenly irrelevant, and you do not have anything readily available to substitute it with.

This situation is, for the large part, unavoidable and painful. It usually takes time, sometimes days, sometimes weeks or months, before you can break the surface of grief with only your nose, to “breathe” and deal to a limited extent with your immediate environment. However, if you are grounded in inner peace, you can push more than your nose above that surface; perhaps your whole head or maybe even your torso.

When you are grounded in inner peace, you are in a constant mental state of stillness and awareness. You do not feel any movement in your being, yet you are intensely aware of your thoughts as well as all physical sensations. The moment a loved one passes on, the flood of thoughts mentioned earlier occurs. But if you are already in a state of still awareness, it will be like watching a movie about a flood from a seat in the audience.

The net result is that you do not feel personally as distraught or depressed as you would if you were “swimming in your thoughts.” Less of a toll is taken on your nervous system, your attitude towards life and those who are dependant on you. If you are in a very advanced state of inner peace, there will be no toll taken at all.

This is how being aligned with your inner peace makes grief more bearable. It is therefore a very good idea for you to identify your inner peace and abide in it as soon as possible!

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How to Have Peace in Your Financial Life

Achieve Genuine Peace With Janet Schlarbaum by Linda E Ballis.

Do you feel that you are managing your financial life or that it is managing you? Most people who you speak to these days are living paycheck to paycheck and spend far too much of their time worrying about money. But imagine how your life might change if you could achieve genuine peace in your finances and never worry about money again. If this is what you really want, then within a few moments you’ll have a rock solid strategy for making this a reality in your life.

Step One: Identify the Problem
If you are worrying about money now, chances are that having more money is not going to change that. This is because the tendency to worry is an internal habit and thus requires an internal shift in order for you to get rid of it. Of course, there are external things which can make this shift MUCH easier: less debt, more income, more money in savings and investments. However, if these changes are not accompanied by a shift in your psychology, it is likely that you’ll still worry about money.

Perhaps you’ll worry about losing your extra income or your savings or your investments. Perhaps you’ll worry that something is going to happen to cause you to get back into debt. No matter what it might be, you must realize that worry is a state of mind based on ritualistic habits of thinking. If you want to stop worrying about money, you must start by changing the patterns of thought that lead to worry. Only then can you begin to focus your energy and attention on a plan of action to get yourself into a better financial situation…

Why Do People Worry About Money?
Worry is a repetitious “What if” based thought pattern that eventually causes a shift in your physiology which is commonly called fear or anxiety. This anxiety paralyzes your ability to relax and to use your creative imagination and problem solving skills to formulate plans of action for confronting the object of your worry. As this happens, your mind is forced to repeat patterns of thinking which have become familiar to you and which require little use of your creative imagination. To change this, you have to make a shift in thinking which gives your creative imagination the freedom to come to your aid.

You see, people worry about money (or anything for that matter) out of a need for certainty regarding future events. However, the future by definition is never going to be certain. The only thing that that you can be certain about is your choice to take action in the present in order to change your future. Therefore focusing on plans of action and getting to work RIGHT NOW is the only way to truly defeat patterns of worry….

Step Two: Identify what you are Really Worried About Losing
Most negative “What ifs” come from the fear that you might be about to lose something which is important to you. When people worry about money, what they are usually worrying about is losing something which has little or nothing to do with money. Consider the following list or priorities in your life:

• Your Health
• Your Recreational Life
• Your Purpose in Life or Career
• Your Personal Growth and Education
• Your Spiritual Well Being
• Your Relationships
• Your Belongings

Go through each of these areas of your life and ask yourself how dependent they are on your financial status. Better yet, what plans of action could you put in place to deal with these areas of your life if you were to suddenly lose all of your financial assets? How would you continue to care for your health? How would you relax and entertain yourself? Even if you lost your job…what steps would you take to continue on your career path or pursue your purpose?

How would you continue with your own personal growth and education? How would you continue to build your relationships with God or with others? How would you cope even if you lost all of your belongings? Often times, brainstorming a plan of action to deal with the worst case scenario is the cure for worry.

Step Three: Control What You Can Control and Let Go of What You Can’t

Using the information from step two, start taking the necessary actions to get control of these areas of your life. This will help you build a sense of certainty in these areas which will keep them from being affected by financial worries. This sense of security and confidence will free you to focus your attention on creating plans of action to take control of your financial life instead of being paralyzed by worry.

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2009 – A Quest For Balance and Peace

A Mark Schlarbaum Quest For Balance By Tania Gabrielle.

I was forced to take a break from the internet over the holidays while visiting Clay’s family near Lake Tahoe. We had a great time. My respite allowed me the quiet and space to understand the significance of our current year – 2009.

What struck me immediately about 2009 is that it reduces to 11 and 2 and so ties in directly with our new millennium – the 2000s.

To understand 2009 let’s backtrack a bit, We can see that 2008 added up to 10/1 and connected to our last century, the 1900s.

The 1900s brought change. Old ways were no longer useful. New discoveries created a much better quality of life for many – amazing progress in science, manufacturing, new materials and ways for building homes, new inventions, the spirit of adventure by air – including explorations in outer space all characterized this 10/1 cycle. Competitiveness, leadership, original thought and a singular approach were the norm.

Every cycle places a magnifying glass on a set of numbers and asks you to adjust. When certain requirements are not followed, challenges result.

In the 1900s wanting to be ‘Number 1′ was taken to extremes at various times and with various leaders – the world experienced two world wars, strife and struggles for supremacy.

Fast-forward to last year, also a 10/1 Universal Year.

2008 was the FIRST year in the FIRST 9-year cycle in our new millennium. In 2008 the old really began to crumble. Outdated approaches on Wall Street and in government were exposed.

Now we are in a New Year. One that adds up to 11 and reduces to 2.

The key words to the 2000s and 2009 are ‘balance and peaceful coexistence.’ Those who connect to compassion and have a spiritual purpose will feel much more comfortable. If you accept the mystery, wisdom and great sensitivity of this cycle – if you communicate with your heart, your intuition – you will thrive.

Those who refuse to connect with others in a peaceful, spiritual way will slowly lose their hold.

During any 2 cycle you want to guard against conceit and making wrong choices. And this year we will be prompted to adjust to the 2 cycle with an 11 twist. 11 is a gateway and prompts you to make a choice. You can walk through the two pillars into the unknown on the other side and keep growing, just like a plant grows toward the sun.

Or you can ignore the presence of this 11 gateway and decide to keep on doing things as before. Any stubborn attachment to past, outdated thoughts and actions will result in imbalance. These people will be on shaky ground.

That’s because, Master Number 11 first and foremost tests you to keep balance in your life. You do this by tuning in. Not to the media. But by checking your greatest source of wisdom – your intuition.

For example, balancing the material WITH the spiritual is one of the responsibilities in the 2000s. People and corporations who use money as a spiritual resource and uplift and empower the lives of others, will do well. Those who use money to hurt and deceive and gain power over others will begin to feel very uncomfortable. People who have spent their whole lives telling others how to live are losing power.

Spiritual ideas have often been scorned in the world of business and politics. However, those days are waning.

All of us will be asked to set aside our differences and communicate heart to heart. The quality of the peaceful, loving 2 demands it.

Cooperation and communication, keywords for Number 2, are greatly enhanced by the wonders of the world wide web. Networking helps us understand and transcend our differences. This very newsletter, online video, emails, internet communities, podcasts – all give us all an amazing opportunity to connect in a profoundly meaningful way.

Some of you have asked for my predictions. In a few days I will share the trends and possibilities expected for important leaders and countries.

However, All of us will be placed in situations where we will be asked to use our intuition much more actively. Reaching out to others, neighbors, friends, and strangers will be important this year in order for you to remain happy, safe and at peace in the future.

You will be asked to trust and to LISTEN to your HEART.

You will have experiences where you’ll know – ‘I’ve seen the Light.’ In fact choosing light over darkness will be a test for everyone this year. ‘Light’ happens to reduce to 11/2 in the Pythagorean System of Numerology. So does the word ‘Relationship.’ Both words are very important during 2009.

In 2009 you have an amazing opportunity to release shackles that have been perceived as ‘necessary evils’ for centuries. And some, especially young people, will act to change the system.

Will the waking up come from major Earth changes, as some are predicting? That’s certainly possible. This quest for balance, whether for the Earth or in politics and religion will be felt everywhere.

The challenge in an 11 cycle is to see beyond divisions. To transcend those ideas which separate us from one another and move towards communication and peace.

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20 Reasons Why You Need Inner Peace and Tranquility

By: Remez Sasson
Inner peace is not reserved only to yogis, hermits or monks, sitting alone in a far off place, praying or meditating all day long. It can also be attained by people living an ordinary life, who have a job, married and with children.

Inner peace is a state of being emotionally and mentally at peace and strong in the face of discord or stress. It is the opposite of being stressed or anxious.

True inner peace, confers tranquility, inner harmony and inner balance, and is an inner condition, which is independent of external conditions and circumstances. It can be acquired through proper training, resulting in the ability to remain calm, undisturbed and unhurried in difficult and unpleasant situations.

When there is inner peace there are no anxieties and fears, no negative thoughts or negative expectations, no stress and no lack of satisfaction and happiness. It is a state of emotional and mental poise, happiness, confidence and inner strength.

Though almost everyone desires inner peace, albeit unconsciously, few realize its importance and benefits, and very few realize that it is a skill that can be learned and developed. You can stay where you are, without making external changes in your life, and yet attain inner peace. Some might go faster and others might progress at a slower pace. Some might reach high and others not so high, but any amount of inner peace and tranquility gained is a great achievement that can transform one’s life.

There are many reasons why you need to gain at least some measure of inner peace. Here are 20 reasons to consider:

1. Inner peace improves your ability to concentrate.

2. It improves the ability to handle efficiently the daily affairs of life.

3. It increases your inner strength and power.

4. Inner peace eliminates impatience, anger, nervousness and restlessness.

5. Inner peace develops patience, tolerance and tact.

6. It makes you feel centered, grounded, and stable.

7. Being mentally and emotionally calm contributes to improved sleep.

8. You gain the ability to be emotionally and mentally unaffected by what people think or say about you.

9. It eliminates stress, anxieties and worries.

10. Inner peace brings inner happiness and bliss.

11. It increases self mastery and self discipline.

12. It relaxes the body and nerves.

13. The healing energies of the body work unhindered.

14. Being peaceful enables you not to be swayed by events, hardships and difficulties, and to maintain inner poise, clear judgement and common sense in such situations.

15. Inner peace eliminates negative, futile and restless thinking.

16. It improves your relationships with other people.

17. It makes life look brighter.

18. It increases creativity.

19. It makes it easier to meditate.

20. It is the gateway to enlightenment and spiritual awakening.

True inner peace is important not only while things move smoothly, but especially in times of trouble, difficulties or danger. Then it counts most.

Inner peace ultimately brings peace into your life, your affairs and your relationships, and to the world around you.

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What is Peace

By: Syed Masrur
He is Allah, besides Whom there is no god; the King, the Holy, the Giver of peace, the Granter of security, Guardian over all, the Mighty, the Supreme, the Possessor of every greatness Glory be to Allah from what they set up (with Him). [ Al - Quran - 59.23 ]

Peace is something that everyone wants probably more than anything else. Yet since time began, this world has never known true peace. With all the technological advances that have profoundly changed the way we live, we still have not found a workable formula.

Yes, we can produce a long list of steps that can be taken to promote peace. The list includes education, communication, understanding, economic assistance, negotiation, statesmanship, treaties, protocols and other government mechanisms to minimize friction and resolve disputes. However, we know from unfortunate experience that these approaches do not always succeed.

There is another major force for peace, and I am personally convinced through the lessons of history, witnessed by science and confirmed by culture that beacon of hope. It is a force which offers civilization the best hope for wide-spread and lasting accord around the globe. Islam, the only solution to world peace.

‘Challenge your soul’ is the expressions we used to reflect man’s search and need for ‘inner’ peace, happiness and tranquility. This translates in ones pursuit of the worldly gratifications, such as money, power, wealth and recognition. For them it is not just a choice a life-style but a system of life, hence becomes religion. For others, such gratifications can be had from seeking a meaning, understanding and conviction of the purpose of life. Their quest usually takes them to acknowledging a divine order and the pursuit to please “The Supreme and Guardian over all” in hope of a time immortal with everlasting, happiness and tranquility. For them this is not only a choice of a system of life but also preference of a life-style.

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When You Cant Find Peace Without Choose Peace Within

By Jason Mannino

I ran into a friend at the gym last week. Originally from Switzerland, he has been living in Los Angeles for 20 years. Ten years ago he and his partner purchased a beautiful home, which sits at the end of a cul de sac in the West Hollywood Hills, where many enjoy a pristine, quiet life. He lives in a home many people would not even venture into for an open house because they know they couldn’t afford it. I would go as far as to say he lives a privileged life. So I was rather struck when during our brief conversation my friend revealed that he was choosing to leave L.A.

He had always been a person who was quite fond of expressing his love and gratitude for living in Los Angeles. So, I asked, “What has made you decide to sell your beautiful home and move?” His reply came as a surprise: “This town has gotten so hectic and chaotic. I used to be able to relax here. I used to find it peaceful. I really don’t anymore. I have not really been able to relax in LA for a long time.”

His statement gave me reason to pause, and also gave me food for brain fodder. There have been times when I, too, have shared his sentiment about living in Los Angeles. It’s easy to get caught up in the notion that one’s surroundings can dictate his or her level of life enjoyment. But I’ve noticed that, more often than not, when I am running around chaotic like the proverbial chicken with its head chopped off, it is on a day when I did not practice my morning ritual of centering and meditating.

Because my friend and I were both in the middle of our workouts, I did not share what was coming to mind for me, so we finished up our chat by talking about the recent holidays. He shared his experience going to church on Christmas Eve, and after he had moved on to a different machine in the gym, I found myself reflecting upon our conversation. I wondered if, during his trip to church, he had been instructed by the pastor to turn to his neighbor and say “Peace be with you.” As a non-practicing Jew who’s been to Christian services once or twice, I had always enjoyed this part of the service, but now I find myself contemplating the meaning of that phrase.

Although I know it means “I hope that you find peace,” I’ve come to believe that “Peace be with you” is a somewhat misleading saying. And as I typed ‘Peace be with you,’ I found myself reminded of this when my word processing program suggested an alternative: “Peace is with you.” This, to me, is the more truthful and appropriate thing to say to someone, for it suggests that peace lies within each of us and that we all have the capacity to access it if we choose to. Perhaps computers do sometimes know more than people after all.

It is easy to allow ourselves to get caught in the fear and chaos that can come with the state of current global affairs. Our economy is heinous. People are still killing each other in the name of oil and in the name of their chosen gods. Is peace really something we think we can find looking down to the cityscape from the hill we live on in Los Angeles, or from the 30th floor of the building in which we live in Times Square?

When we continue to seek peace as if it is an external experience to be provided sometime in the future by something or someone other than ourselves, it never arrives. The truth is that peace is a reality that lies within you. Just like love, joy, silence, and grace it cannot be created or destroyed. It just is.

The inner experience of peace is a choice we can make. For instance, for me choosing peace can be as simple as disengaging from the inner experience of fear and chaos that can come when I check the balance on my retirement account. Instead of giving in to that fear, I give myself permission to focus on the fact that in this moment my needs are more than met. It can be as simple as choosing to focus on my breath rather than the person who just cut me off in traffic. I chose to see being laid off from my last corporate position at the end of 2007 as a gift from spirit telling me it was time to stop dabbling in my coaching/seminar business part time, as I had been doing for years, and finally commit full time to a coaching career. And, a few years ago, when my brothers and I had to remove my mother from the life support that kept her breathing following a health battle, I chose peace. I left the hospital room to go to the chapel, where I intended to have a few moments of peace and silence. It was in that peace a very clear message came from spirit advising me to go back to her room, because her transition was imminent. I did, and within a very short period of time she made her peaceful transition.

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World Peace

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD

It is nearly impossible to listen to TV/ Radio news or read a newspaper without noticing the outside world is seemingly in a state of disorder and chaos. You might feel compelled to do something to remedy the situation and bring peace, yet you are overwhelmed and unable to know what to do or where to start. One reason for this is that one cannot bring to the world what one does not have as a foundation from which to approach the situation.

Peace starts in your heart, mind and soul, not outside yourself. Until peace is rooted in your life, you can not affect it externally. When you have created peace within, you can share it with others, your community and the world. Those who have personal peace of mind—Deepak Chopra, Neale Donald Walsch, James Redfield, James Twymann, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, Caroline Myss, the Dali Lama—to name the most recognized peace troupedors—are working to bring world peace.

The first step in creating world peace, is looking within and evaluating the state of your relationship to peacefulness within.

• Thoughts Create Your Reality

• Peace of Mind—Claim It

People who create personal peace of mind are no different than anyone else. They are ordinary people, who have disciplined themselves or sought professional help to clear out the negative thoughts and troubled emotions. They avoid focusing their thoughts and subsequent feelings on whatever creates a state of personal disorder and chaos. Everyone has the ability to choose how one focuses their thoughts, and practice enables one to grow increasingly more serene as you choose thoughts of peace versus thoughts of conflict. As you practice creating peace you will begin to recognize your thoughts and feelings are in your control, versus in the control of outside influences.

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Inner Peace and World Peace Go Hand in Hand – It Begins With You!

By Joan Marie Whelan

Have you ever heard the expression, “Become the change you want to be”? This motivational statement should be the foundation to not only promoting peace, but to achieving peace – both internally and in the world around us.

When you “become the change you want to be,” you are creating an environment for positive transformation for yourself and for humanity. Easier said than done? If you’re seriously committed to challenging yourself and setting goals for achieving inner peace, you will in fact discover that YOU have the energetic resources to fulfill your true life destiny.

Achieving inner peace does begin with you, and to begin the process of creating the change you want to become starts by the realization that each and every one of us has a vital role to play in making the world a better place. Inner peace begins by learning how to find acceptance with ourselves, and those around us.

Because the human race is comprised of so many diverse and unique individuals, we are all essential elements in the universal flow of energy. When we connect with that positive energy, we are awakening the unlimited potential to becoming one with the world.

Are you ready to create change you want to become? Smile. Not just a little grin – a BIG, genuine smile. Can you feel your face lifting? Can you feel your breathing becoming more relaxed? That’s it. That’s the smile that begins the process of achieving inner peace. When you smile, you can feel an internal transformation taking place. Suddenly, every thing around you slows down…time stands still. The smile that you have created is the essential step to winding down your emotions and resting your spirit.

Now begins the process toward achieving inner peace. Since you have smiled and lifted your inhibitions, you will find that taking deep, slow breaths helps in improving your blood circulation; which in turn, allows you to think more clearly and in a more relaxed state of mind. That is what inner peace is all about – having the ability to relax your mind and rest your spirit. By practicing these relaxation techniques on a daily basis, you find that otherwise annoying circumstances no longer cause unwanted stress to you. And remember – because you are smiling, the world is smiling with you. Inner peace and world peace begin with you.

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By Rita Desnoyers-Garcia

We all say that we want peace on this planet. And most of us are sincere in this regard, but why is it so out of our reach? Activists with whom I have spoken ponder, if not struggle with, this question and still reach outside themselves for the answers. We need different systems of governments, more equal distribution of resources, more long-term vision, more humane thinking. All of this is part of the answer,but the bigger solution is missed.

In order to have world peace, we need to look inside ourselves, each one of us, and uncover our inner peace. If each of us took the time to stop acting and doing and searching from the outside, we could focus even for a few moments on the inside. Most of us are terrified to do just that. In my opinion, and I am not alone on this one, it is because we are experiencing everything but peace inside.

The mainstream has been exposed to meditation and yoga. Even mindfulness in each moment is getting popular. There is a growing minority of people who are practicing these avenues to our inner Life, but the vast majority are not. There is a reason why I hear from so many mothers who are consciously on a spiritual journey, but procrastinate with being still. It is a painful reminder of how anxious and crazy they feel. The good news is that even if they say that they are anxious or even crazy or enraged, but it is really how they feel, not who they are.

This avoidance to feeling the pain of our minds causes us to keep moving, keep busy, keep doing. It is the hope that by doing more, thinking more, or acquiring more, we will feel better. Or in a deeper sense, we will be better. We will feel that we are enough, because all this anxiety usually has to do with the belief that we need to do more to be enough. Of course, this never happens. We have temporary victories and rest, but then we are back in the salt mines- doing, doing, doing, worrying, worrying, worrying.

The truth is that we are enough. Each one of us is enough, is peace, is love, is abundance. However, we forget how to access that truth. We can understand it intellectually, but until we experience it, it does not mean much.

So, where is all the peace and how do we get to it? There are a lot of ways. Being still is a big one. Yes, you will feel anxiety at times, if not all the time. Be still anyway- avoiding it will not make it go away. Experiencing the depth of it. Observing it is a powerful way to separate yourself from the feeling. You are having a feeling. You are not the feeling. That bears repeating. You are not the feeling. It will take time, probably more than you would like, but with time and practice and tenacious observation, the feeling will lose power over you. Guided meditations are also a great way to start the meditation process- they are tools to help you become relaxed and visualize states of being that you want to experience more often. I use my own with the mothers with whom I work, but you can find guided meditations, often for free, on line.

Yoga is a wonderful way to be meditative, relax and strengthen the body at the same time. Being in the moment or in the NOW, as Eckhart Tolle describes in The Power of Now, is an incredible practice that you can incorporate throughout your whole day. Take a task that you do regularly, and do not hate. Instead of doing it to get it done and while letting your mind run it rants, be totally in the moment with the task. If you are washing dishes, be focused on that and everything that goes with it. Experience the water on your hands. Is it warm or cold? Observe how you scrub the dish, rinse the glass, use a cloth. Feel all the sensations of the task. That, in itself, is a meditation.

As you practice and observe, you see the anxiety and start to see it for what is really is. It is a feeling you have developed over time because you have swallowed the belief that you are not enough. Then you begin to question this belief and separate yourself from it. Eventually you will create new beliefs that are truer to who you really are. Peace, love, abundance and so much more.

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